T-Minus 1.5Wednesday, June 29th, 2005
Got aroudn to this one late in the day today so I figured I only have a day and a half left…Actually less….I need it…
Trying to get myself to the gym, but I really dont want to set foot there until I get back, although I have to get some paper work signed for my HMO, so I can get soem omoney back, so I might as well go workouts, some abs, pushps, and running I think is in order…I still dont feel like lifting more then my body weight…
I wonder what is up with that?
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T minus 3 and counting.Tuesday, June 28th, 2005
I am getting excited…Today is almost done….Between work, pregnancy, fires, funeral, horrific accident at condo complex, and workouts, and calorie counting, I am ready… Although I think I will run in the mornings on teh Boardwalk or the beach….I have wanted to do that my whole life (I know not a big dream) but maybe this year I will wake up to do it…Although sleeping in does have its own allure…
Hopefully I will be able to go fishing and spend some time on the water.
Cue wavy Lines:Last year I rented a pontoon boat and took my wifes family out…I think for all of them it was there first time out on the water. It was nice got to see some big homes from the water side. My wifes Aunt is a talker, and I just wanted to enjoy the water and the view. Well she gets a phone call while we are out there, and proceeds to yammer, and gossip the entire tiem we were out there….I think she got mad at me when I called her Oprah, and told her to get off the phone.
I also didnt inspect the prop before we went out and I guess I ran into some mud, the asshole charged my $60.00 to replace the prop…Which I didnt mind paying since I dented the boat up…How you ask? Since I was the only one with experience with a aboat of course I was at the helm, my able bodied, but simple minded brother in law was standing at the rails, so I asked him to throw out the bumper and catch the piling as I edged up to it….He stood there with his hands in his pockets and let the boat slamm in to the piling…Great!
HOpefully this year it will just be my wife and I and her parents….Quite, nice, adults.
Oh one other funny story about water and my BIL (Brother in Law the 23 year old), has never been in a canoe…My father in law really wanted to go out in one. So BIL, sat in the back (since he was heavier) and FIL sat in the front, with MIL, in teh middle…Well they push this canoe out into about 3 inches of water, and my BIL cant figure out how to balance himself, so they are rocking….My MIL jumps out and freaks out thinking she is going to drown and runs back to shore….
So now Melissa and I are on the water paddling around, BIL +FIL are paddling around BIL is basicly laying in the bottom of the canoe, and paddling backwards while FIL is paddling forwards…halarious….FIL throws him out of the canoe tells him to go back to land…Melissa hops out and ask me to take her Dad out…We went almost all the way across the bay….It was really nice…He loved it……I laughed my ass off at my BIL…He is too funny.
Cue wavy lines:Present Day:I bought a special umbrella with SPF woven into the fabric. It blocks 98.99% of all harmful rays, so between that, my wifes special coolibar hat, and her SPF50 parasol, No-Ad lotion she will be well protected, white as a ghost and melenoma free.
We are also packing the heart rate monitor so we can hear the beat, and hear it swimming…Its not a big things about the size of a paper back book so no problem.
Thursday, will be my last day and I will pack that night, maybe even see War of the Worlds with my brother- in-law.
As for the driving I guess I wont be able to drink to much at the wedding on Saturday which is ok by me, and at this point I dont really want to go…I used to big affairs in caterering halls, and not in Knights of Columbus hall in small town…I am sure it will be very nice, but I dont want to drive 5-6 hours to hang in teh KOFC and give a gift and then head out…Granted, they came to our wedding from NC…
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T Minus 4 and counting.Monday, June 27th, 2005
Almost there guys, almost there. Here goes the way things were and the way they will be.
Funeral -Done, ashes back at my parents house. My grnadmother feels lost, and doesnt know what to do. She says she will have to go back to work…Ha.
Summer- Is here and hot in NY….I am lvoing it. This is the first summer in forever that I can remember taking my shirt off and not thinking I should have it back on…NOt that I am totally ripped or anythign yet unfortuantely but I am getting there and you can see it…Especially with a little color in my skin, You can see where my abs live, and that they want to be seen.
Diet Exercise- Well the last few weeks have been tough since the funeral, that week was a lost one, and last week I decided not to lift, although I did lots of cardio…Still at 203. I am goign to Low carb it this week so when I get to the beach on Sunday I will be at my leanest…
Flounder FIshing- Took my brother -in-law fishing with the family this weekend. The mrs. coudlnt go becuase we were worried about eh heat, and the boat with her pregnancy. My father (it was his b-day) caught abotu 10 fish with 3 keepers, he also had the biggest fish that day and won the pool, not too damn bad I woudl say….We then went to Robert Mosess State Park and laid in the sand for an hour. We had some ral piggs on either side of us…An odler fat cople talking about 3 ways and moresomes, and big of a girl next to us who was drunk cursing up a storm…
THe Journey- Well the plans for this weekend and upcoming vaccation are in, here we go. Friday Drive from Poughkeepsie to Saratoga Springs for a DMB concert at SPAC. Sleep in SS. 2 hours.
Saturday Morning wake up drive 3.5- 4 hours to Massena, NY for a wedding at the Knights of Colombus Hall…Should be beautiful right? THen immidately follwoing wedding at 7 pm-8pm get back in car. Drive (according to map quest 9.35 hours or Google Maps 11.37 hours to) Bethany Beach DE. THe reason I am driving that night is becuase I dont want to be stuck in shore traffic in Jersey or down by Philly all day on July 2-3….I would rather be asleep on the beach, with a red stripe…
Boy that is lots of driving….
For today it is off to the gym this afternoon, and I have a bunch of phone calls for work to make tonight to try and drum up business before I leave for a week…Since I am not working on Friday I am almost on Vacca right? Damn I am daydreaming away right now.
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Pregnancy Week 12 update.Monday, June 27th, 2005
Mother:
You may actually start feeling better from your extreme tiredness and nausea this week. Others will hang on to it for awhile longer. Your abdomen may start expanding, especially if this is not your first pregnancy.
Your placenta will take over the production of hormones around this time. If you have suffered from corpus luteum cysts they may begin to dissolve now. Your risk of miscarriage is reduced even further.Baby:
While your baby’s brain is not the same size it will be at birth, it does have the same structure. Bile is being secreted by this time. S/he weighs about 14 grams and is approximately 3.54 inches in total length.
Your baby has its reflexes and also practice movements in the digestive tract. All of this in preparation for extrauterine life.
If your practitioner uses a doppler, you may be able to hear your baby’s heart beat at this office visit. It will sound very fast. Some say that they hear clicking or the sounds of horse hooves. Either way it is a joyous sound to hear! Your risk of miscarriage is greatly reduced once you hear this sound.****************************************************************************
WE listen to the HB 2x a day…It is pretty damn cool, we can also hear the baby moving with the machine we have….It sounds like when someone is under water, which in fact it is….
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What upWednesday, June 15th, 2005
So I was thinking about what I wanted to blog about today, my weight loss, my grandfather, my wife pregnancy, my plumbing problems, so I figured screw it there is nothign going on here this morning I might as well get it al out of the way.
Pregnancy: Right on track, and we have a home heart rate monitor so we can hear the beat whenever we want….
Weightloss: Gues what holding fast at 203-205 always…Doing lots of cardio this week, the lifting got screwwed up when my grandfather died last week, I am doign a ton of situps and pushup though.
DMB: Goign to two shows this year one at teh Saratogoa Performing Arts center (SPAC), and one on Randals Island in the city…Both should be awesome…I will also get to cathch BNL…I have seen them a few times, and I am looking forward to catching them again.
Plumbing: So I had a housefull of people last week and we all need to take showers. I guess teh action of me truning the main (water) on and off loosened somethign so I had a steady drip int eh basement, my wife said call a plumber and get it fixed. There were none that could come right away, and you guys know that witha pregnant woman this time of thing can go from small thign to disaster in a second….So I called my sister ex bf…He was there like a super hero right away…Turns out it was somethign simple like a packing nut….I never knew there was such a thing, but now I know because it is my nickname.
Travel: So the frist DMB show is in SPAC, and then I have a wedding in Messina to attend. It is about 3 hours north of spac, which is already 2 hours north of where I live. Then after teh wedding at aroudn 8 pm, I will proably head out and drive to Bethany Beach DE, to begin my vaccation…Putting me on the beach just in time for sun up…Actually a little before, but I need to get out of here and clear my head…
Grandfather: The other day it was a week that he has been dead….I was sitting aroudn thinking….Fucking Pop…That was all I coudl think…I also started to think abotu what happens when we die…I am catholic so I believe in heaven…But then I got to thinking what is heaven is it a place where we are all the same as we are here, or do we just return to some higher consciousness….Deep….
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Week 10…and the beat goes on.Tuesday, June 14th, 2005
Actual picture of my wifes uterus and baby!….Hand drawn of course.
How your baby’s growing: Your baby is no longer an embryo! Though she’s barely the size of a kumquat ? just an inch or so long, crown to bottom ? and weighs less than a quarter of an ounce, she now has completed the most critical portion of her development. This is the beginning of the so-called fetal period, a time when the tissues and organs in her body rapidly grow and mature. Her vital organs ? the liver, kidney, intestines, brain, and lungs ? are now in place and starting to function (although they’ll continue to develop throughout your pregnancy). Her liver continues to make blood cells, and the yolk sac, which previously supplied these cells, is no longer needed and begins to disappear.
During the next three weeks, your baby’s length will more than double to nearly 3 inches. Her head is proportionately smaller now than it was a few weeks ago, but it’s still almost half the length of her entire body. Her forehead temporarily bulges with her developing brain and sits high on her head; it will later recede to give her a more human appearance. Each day, more minute details ? including tiny fingernails, toenails, and peach-fuzz hair ? start to appear on her body. Her fingers are now completely separated; her arms bend at the elbow and curve slightly; her hands are flexed at the wrist and meet over her heart; her legs are lengthening; and her feet may be long enough to meet in front of her body. She is busily swallowing amniotic fluid and kicking her legs.
If you could take a peek at your baby this week, you’d be able to clearly see the outline of her spine through her parchment-thin skin. Spinal nerves are beginning to stretch out from her spinal cord.
* Note: Experts say every baby develops differently ? even in the womb. This developmental information is designed to give you a general idea of how your baby is growing.
How your life’s changing: Your uterus has doubled in size by now. Before you got pregnant, it was the size of a small pear. By this week, it’s grown to the size of a grapefruit. At your next prenatal visit, you may be able to hear your baby’s rapid heartbeat with the help of a Doppler, a hand-held soundwave stethoscope that your practitioner will pass over your belly. Many women say that the beating of their baby’s tiny heart sounds like the thunder of galloping horses and hearing it for the first time is one of the greatest joys of the first trimester.
Depending on your level of fitness, you can most likely participate in a wide range of activities during pregnancy. Swimming and walking are excellent choices for the whole nine months. Exercise promotes muscle tone, strength, and endurance ? three qualities that can help you carry the weight you gain during pregnancy, prepare you for the physical stress of labor, and make it easier to get back into shape after your baby is born. (Unfortunately, there’s no evidence that regular exercise shortens labor.)
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I dont belong at work yetMonday, June 13th, 2005
Man I am cranky…
Gotta get to teh gym this afternoon…Funerals are hell on the diet and exercise program…
We have a home baby doppler machine…It is pretty cool, now we can hear the heart beat whenever we want…Pretty neat…
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My Grandfather was a good man, and my uncle is a douche bag. (Long Read)Friday, June 10th, 2005
I will get to all that…Here it goes.
I got the phone call Tuesday night around 1030 that Poppy was going to the hospital and this time it didnt look good….I had heard that one before and have been waiting for this day…However this time I knew before I left the house that it was different…I knew he wasnt coming home…
By the time we got to the hospital he was already gone…He had COPD, and circulation problems…He was 88 years old….He had a good run…
He was in the Navy in WWII and served in the pacific on the Antitem and the Bunker hill, he is in some famous picture when his ship was hit by the Japanese Zeros…He was strong and in shape up until he 80’s when his arthritis and latter an pulmonary emoblism slowed him down…
I never knew it but he saved all the programs from all my concert that he came to. As well as the times my cousin made the papers for there sports, as well as major historical events.
He raised two daughter that love him very much as well as 6 grandson and 2 granddaughter. He really wanted to be a Great Grand Father. Every person he spoke to loved him and was impressed by him.
He told me he was excited about meeting his great grand baby.He was a great grandfather to me.
Now on to the uncle.
This man hasnt been around for over 26 years…Years ago he had a falling out with his brother (my moms brothers), and decided that for him living in Cali. was better. He left behind the rest of his family and moved there and started his life.
He eventually got around to calling his mother (my grandmother) and wanted to see her (years later). He visited and accused her of horrible abuse that no one remembers but him. He has some mental illness. When his Mother (my grandfather is not his father, my grandparents were married to other people before WWII), needed help he was not there. When she had her stroke, or her car accident or her surgery, or when she had to move out of her house and in with my parents he did nothing to help.
He has 2 failed mariages. He doesnt know his kids that well, and I dont know them at all…Every time he comes to town he gets thrown out of antother family memembers house and asked never to come back…For instance: My other uncle (his brother the one he had a falling out with) his grandson died of cancer at 14, and in that same week, my uncle (the good one) had to have his legs amputated because of diabetes…he called my aunt a cunt, said he should have shot my grandfather years ago, and that his mother was a cunt, and only ever thought about one thing, her stupid selfish cunt….
My Nana and Poppy are great people…That have done nothing but care and love everyone of us, and there is a lot of us.
I read the eulogy to the people present at the house tonight…My asshole uncle wanted one and felt someone should do it…He also feels like he wants to speak at teh funeral…NO one I repeat, no one wants to hear it…I know why he is here.
He is here to celebrate my grandfathers death…Not to help anyone cope, he has never been here for anyone but himself in 26 years. He wants to speak at the funeral, the man he said he shouldve killed years ago, in front of the woman, your mother that only thinks of her cunt….The balls on this man.
Fuck that…My mother said she didnt think that it was a good idea, and he pressed the subject. I said Uncle V. i dont think it is a good idea. He looks at me with anger in his eyes points at me and says why not? I said becuase you have an agenda and are not here to help you are here to hurt like you always do. He says something back…I say no one care what you have to say you are a fucking dickhead. He says the same back to me….I tell him to fuck off, and call him a piece of shit and a loser. He says I know nothing about him…I say I know enough….
I know that you havent been here for 26 years.I know that you wanted to kill my grandfather, I know what you said about my grandmother. I know that you tried to give me advice for dealing with women, after you have two failed marriages. I know that at age 62 you are an emotional cripple and have made no progress as a man…I know you called and asked you 85 year old mother and the man you wished dead, for $8000.00 last year and I know why you are here….He is a child and I will not allow him to abuse anyone in this family…Others might be too nice, or think he is too sick to hear it but he will hear from me. I know that no one care what the fuck you say….I then hit him in the face with my beer can….
I know, your thinking that I was drunk, but it was my first beer and most of it went on him…If my cousins didnt grab me he would have gotten punched in the face.
I told him to go back to Cali. that there was no reason for him to be here and that he again was a fucking piece of shit…
I apologized to my grandmother becuase I know she loves him, but I will be damned if I let this absentee family memeber talk bad about the people I love while he continues to mooch off of people and hurt them…I put an end to that shit…
I left my parents house with my wife, who has been staying up the last few night too late, but she is being aroudn when I need her.
My tears havent flowed yet, and I am not sure that they will…
I know I love my Nana and Pop, I know I love my cousins, and that my Pop had a profound affect on them becuase he helped raise them…I will not let anyone say a bad word about him, not at the mans funeral….
Suffice to say it was a fun night…(more on teh halarity of the day in another post)My grandmother called me and asked if I was ok…She was worried about me…I told her the sicilian in me got hot, and I couldnt listen to this mans BS….Pop is sicilian.
One of my cousins has a close bond with the man and although he is like my brother felt that he had to stay and make sure that he caused no more problems, and explained to him why I was mad, and that he hurts people when he come around…I hate that…I hate that this man doesnt understand the consquences of his action and that his words hurt people that love him…
I cant promise anyone I wont go after him again…I just cant promise that…
Thanks for reading.
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One mans garbage is another mans food.Tuesday, June 7th, 2005
I just sent an entire refridgerators worth of left over food down my new garbage disposal…Chicken, broccoli hamburger, pasta…It was oragsmic…
In aother news since Melissa is asleep my sister just called, my granGdfather just went to the hospital, he was blue, and mumbling and not looking well. I didnt wake Melissa. I hope he is ok.
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After the recent events I shut off the water for safety. That when the problem started.Monday, June 6th, 2005
In my condo complex, more on that in a few weeks after we see what the lawyers say. It was time for me to do some work in my house.
When we first moved in I completly (with the help of my father and my mother-in-laws connection for a great price), re-modeled our kitchen…We put in sink cabinet that was larger then the one that was there, so the plumbing seemed to be off center. In an effort to fix that I used a few right angle pips to get the drop right, but didnt weld them together, I puttyed them…From time to time teh putty would leak and I would fix as needed…
On Sunday my wife decided that it was time for her husband to learn how to do some plumbing…So I set off for home depot…I bought a garbage disposal figuring that this would travle the distance I needed to be over the J-trap and away we go. With a few mins of tinkering to shut off the water and hook up the electirc, the damn thing was installed….Holy crap I had done some plumbing…No pressure no probs, 40 mins done, including time to get my tools…But wait can that be all….No!
I turned the water back on (which I didnt really need to turn off but did so to be safe) and nothing…No water coming out of the faucet, but water coming out of the ice maker…Weird right. Thats what I thought…So lets turn it off and back on again….Ok so now it doesnt trun off…Well damn the valve must have broke…Ok…how about the hot….Nothing…damn that valve must have broke too…
Back to the depot….The valves I have are threaded on the feed side, home depot didnt carrythem so the carried the adapters…All set home to change my first set of valves.
So now I am a contortionist, jammed under the sink in a 30 inch cabinet, if the circus went by I could have just signed up, and not for being the ape man (although not after last night ) If you have never sen a 5′10″ 203 lb guy inside a 30 inch cabinet with a monkey wrench a garbage disposal and all the rest of the plumbing then you are missing out.
Change out the valves still no pressure in the sink. So now I wonder if there is a problem with the valves, back down in to the basement to turn the water off and on and back and forth about 50 times…..One time I forgot to turn the valves off…That right, Mt. St Helen erupted under my sink….If we had a baby now it could have used my pergo floor as a slip and slide. I got screamed and cursed at and called all sorts of names…
After about 4 hours of of plumbing work I take the nozzle on the sink apart. It seems that a piece of the rubber valves that close the water on and off broke apart and lodged it self in my damn airator on the faucet….I didnt think it was possbile for it to make it where it went having to travel through all the other pipes and tubes to get there…But it did… Should have done that first since it was the easiest piece to get too…
After a few leaks, everythign work fine…Wait I take that back…I have to trun the bolts one more time to take the drip out of the hot water side….It has a slow drip still…But I couldnt take it anymore…So I will tighten it today…
Plumbing wasnt that bad actually kinda of fun…hard work…worked up a good sweat too…now all that is left to do, is one piece of crown molding, 2 walk in closet systems, and 2 more pergo floors, once I take out the carpet that we dont like, oh then paint and decorate a nursey…Piece of cake…